We all know at least one person who is truly constantly busy. When you meet them for coffee, they will ask you how you are, without looking up from their smartphone because they are currently answering an important email. They will rush out of that coffee in exactly 45 minutes, because they have three additional activities to complete by the end of the day, and it is already getting dark. At that same coffee, you try to arrange your trip together for the hundredth time, but you simply cannot coordinate your free time because they are “always somewhere”. Sound familiar?
A large number of psychologists and mental health experts unanimously state that there is almost always some “deeper” cause for such extremely busy behavior. Moreover, overloading our day with a large number of activities is not the only way we avoid facing the “real truth”, running away from those things that truly matter to us. We avoid taking on responsibility at work or staying in a demotivating work environment so as not to experience business failure. We avoid entering into romantic relationships to avoid heartbreak, and because we are afraid to show our true feelings. We avoid being alone, so we are constantly mexico whatsapp data looking for a new partner, even the wrong one. We avoid large groups and gatherings of people because we have mild social anxiety, and because we feel uncomfortable in such groups. We avoid studying for an exam, so we occupy ourselves with all sorts of unimportant things, thinking that the responsibility of studying will simply disappear. We avoid being in an environment because it makes us frustrated or dissatisfied, so we run away to all sorts of other locations. We avoid our problems because we think we don't have the ability to solve them successfully. The examples are truly countless.
Do you occupy yourself with work more than you should? Clinical psychologist Dr. Andrea Bonior suggests asking yourself the following three questions to find out:
Do you feel uneasy or nervous when you know that there is currently no work task in front of you?
Do you feel like you're constantly running away from something at your workplace , instead of moving towards something?
When you suddenly have some free time in your schedule, do you automatically try to fill it with various distractions (like browsing social media, etc.)?
If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, there is a possibility that there is indeed something beneath the surface that you have not yet faced.
Honestly, do you think it's acceptable to be constantly working and busy with all sorts of activities? Unfortunately, our workaholic culture supports this. When we are constantly busy, we think we are worth more, we feel more important, and others often admire us for managing to do so many things. However, how is overworking different from overeating, excessive alcohol consumption, or excessive physical activity? One thing is certain – such behaviors are escapes, essentially running away from our greatest fears, suffering, worries, and life's disappointments. This behavior is called escapism in professional terminology .